ok, so i read everyones posts and went out and tried everything one by one and i finally came to a conclusion. but first, just to fill you guys in, the only way i could get my head unit to work, was to have the remotes hooked up, the ground hooked up, and the rca's with the big circle connector.
then i connected the 2 red and the 2 yellow ALL TOGETHER, and i left the orange(illumination), and blue(power antenna) hanging.
i knew this wasnt right, but i was so pumped to see this thing finally work, and i installed it. so i go out, cruising around listening to my new head unit, having a good time. i end up going to walmart. i get out, shut my door, and walk a couple feet and lock my doors with my remote. i hear no horn. i try again, and nothing. so i walk over and lock my door by hand, and the passenger door didnt lock with it. i also realized my dome lights on my mirror didnt turn on when my door was open. so i start my car, and everything works just fine. then i check my headunit, and notice all of my presets are gone, and the two clocks are both reset. so basically, what this is showing, is everything resets each time i shut my car off. i go back home, tear it all apart again, and have my friend come over this time with his dvo. testing every wire, and terminal we can find, we ended up finding one with no current going through it. we took the harness out of the headunit, and and the one that doesnt have any current is the one that the red wire connects to. so basically, this is leaving an open circuit, resetting everything everytime i shut off my car. im bringing this back to best buy and im gonna find another pioneer somewhere because i really like the ipod connection. anyone have any favorite pioneer head units they recommend? i just want to get a good head unit installed, and start working on other fun stuff on my car, like eibach sportlines and kyb agx